Monday, July 21, 2014

Tatted Mom’s Guide to NOT Screwing Up Your Kids




Author Bio: 

Morgan Moss is the creator of The Inklings of Life humor parenting blog (www.theinklingsoflife.com), which was named a Top 10 Mom Blog of 2013 by the parenting website VoiceBoks (www.voiceboks.com). Many of her parenting and motherhood articles have been featured on sites such as the Huffington Post, Babble, WhatToExpect.com, Mamapedia, Parent Society and BlogHer.com. She is a trained tattoo artist, and spends her free time creating mixed media art.

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Book Genre: Nonfiction Parenting/ Humor Parenting
Publisher: Inklings Print
Release Date: October 17, 2013




Book Description:



Motherhood is chaotic.
Some days are filled with unicorns and fairy dust, and some days the unicorn craps on your brand new rug and the fairies are flying around, crashing into walls. Mainstream parenting books help with the unicorn and fairy dust days, but what happens when your kid drops the f-bomb in a crowded grocery store? 

That's where "Tatted Mom's Guide to NOT Screwing Up Your Kids" comes into play, tackling situations in motherhood that you were definitely not warned about. Think of this book as your manual to the parenting problems that leave you throwing your hands up in the air, wondering if you are the only mom who goes through this craziness, and has you hiding in the back of your closet with a bottle of Moscato and a cheesecake (we've all been there). 

"Tatted Mom's Guide to NOT Screwing Up Your Kids" includes:
~The myths that mainstream parenting books tell you, and how they don't apply to every mother.
~How to deal with temper tantrums from toddlers to tweens.
~How to "win" the various battles you will have with your children (like the Personal Hygiene Battle and the Clothing Battle)
~Tips on dealing with picky eaters and the difficult potty trainee.
~Helping build your tween's self esteem and creating a strong family unit.
~Motherly advice on parenting from birth until the tweenaged years (around 12 years old)
~Mom Competition, unplugging your kids, chores, peer pressure and more! 

Written by an unconventional, tattooed, colorful mother whose out-of-the-box parenting tips have proven successful for many families, regardless of parenting style, "Tatted Mom's Guide to NOT Screwing Up Your Kids" weaves together helpful advice with humorous stories from the author's own trials and tribulations as a mom, as well as stories from other moms and dads on their own parenting journeys.
So get the kids in bed, grab a glass of wine and something sweet from your hidden stash of goodies (we all have one of those, too), and crack open "Tatted Mom's Guide to NOT Screwing Up Your Kids". Your mom-sanity will thank you.

GUEST POST:



Top 10 Ways to Not Screw Up Your Kids

11.       Let them be kids. Kids play, kids get dirty, kids talk about gross things like eating worms. As long as my kids aren’t hurting themselves or other people, I let them be kids. I understand this means I will have to teach them how to mop up their muddy footprints on my floor, and listen to farting contests, but those are consequences I happily accept to keep my kids young and innocent.
22.       Set an example. While my kids do understand that I’m the parent and what I say goes, I do try to set an example for my kids to learn by as much as possible. It’s easy to teach your kids healthy eating habits, for example, when you are cooking healthy meals and having them help you in the kitchen.
33.       Let them speak their minds. When my kids are frustrated or angry, I let them speak their minds. They know cursing is off-limits and they must remain respectful of other people, but they know they can speak what they feel and they won’t get in trouble for it.  After they have vented, we sit down, as a family, and work through the problem at hand.
44.       Praise them when they are right, but correct them when they are wrong. Life is about keeping balance. I’m a firm believer that you praise a child when they are doing something good, so they continue with that good behavior, but you also need to set them straight when they are wrong.
55.       Follow through with consequences and punishments. One of my biggest pet peeves is hearing a parent say, “If you do that one more time, I’ll…” and then not following through with the consequence stated. Kids learn that the threats aren’t solid, and they exploit that.
66.       Teach them to think for themselves. I’m a huge advocate of learning through experience. You can tell a child not to do something 5,000 times and they won’t listen. If they do it, and it doesn’t work out for them, that one experience they will learn from. So, as long as their life won’t be in danger, let your kids make mistakes so they learn how to make proper decisions for themselves.
77.       Be involved in their lives. I know my children’s best friends are, who their parents are, what their favorite tv shows are and what websites they frequent. I check the browsing history on the computer after they are done. I randomly read my 12 year old’s texts on her phone. My kids know that I am here, I am nosey, and I will find out what they are doing.
88.       Don’t be afraid to tell them ‘No’. There seems to be this movement in parenting techniques nowadays of not telling a child ‘No,’ as it could cause negative feelings in the child. I’m not sure how, “Honey, do you really think you should play in traffic?” is more effective than screaming out “NO! Get your butt back here NOW!” but you might just call me old-fashioned.
99.       Play and cuddle with them. My kids and I love watching cheesy made-for-TV movies, so when my husband goes to work, we curl up on the couch together and make a night of it. We also play scary computer games, get into water gun fights outside, and lay in forts made in the living room. It keeps the kids young, and you young-at-heart as well.
110.   Be honest with them. There are adult situations that I do shield my kids from, to help keep them kids as long as possible. There are situations, however, where I feel it’s important to be honest with them, now that they are getting older. They appreciate not being talked down to, like a child, and that you are open with them.



Excerpt:

From Chapter 7: Fixing More Than Macaroni and Cheese

Myth #1: Fixing my kids what they want ensures that they are at least eating something. If I don’t fix them what they’ll eat, they’ll starve. 

Tatted Mom’s Truth #1: Your child will not starve themselves. I can 100% guarantee it. These are the same kids who make mud pies in the back yard and try them out to see what they taste like. They will not pass down a hot meal of seafood alfredo because the little shrimps look gross. They reason so many moms use this as an excuse is because they try for one meal to get their kids to branch out, and when it doesn’t work, they give up. Let the kids skip that meal. I promise you, they won’t skip the next one. And don’t go letting them have snacks after the dinner they refused to eat, either. That just reinforces the horrible eating habits. This whole picky eating thing is usually a test of wills with kids. They love macaroni and cheese and chicken nuggets, so they turn down everything else put in front of them until you feed them their favorite meal again, and they stick to it. The more you give in, the more they will take advantage of you.

Tips for Creating Healthy Eating Habits in Children


  1. Introduce your kids to the kitchen as soon as possible. Each of my kids was around the age of two when I had them actually help me prepare meals, but even before that, I’d put them in their high chair, give them a snack and pull the high chair into the kitchen while I prepared a meal with fresh meat and vegetables. I’ve always had my kids pick out meals for us, help cut vegetables, or even given them easy instructions for sauces. When they were too young for any of these options, I had them hand me things so I could cook. A toddler feels like king of the world when you say to him, “Hand Mommy that spoon right there, please,” and even if he hands you the salt, a random apple or the cat instead, he’s a big boy who helped his mom make dinner. Having the kids interact with the cooking process almost guarantees them to eat it, because their pride will kick in, as well as their curiosity. They’ll think, “I helped make this sauce, so I wonder if it sucks or not.” Plus, they’ll see that, despite the fact that those shrimp look like fat worms, no worms went into the making of the meal.
  2. Put the “Mom is eating something, I want a bite” quirk of motherhood to work for you. It never fails. As soon as you go to take a bite of your favorite cake or try and sneak a single M&M into your mouth as a mom, your child will appear out of nowhere and ask for a bite. I can remember one afternoon, when I was chopping up red peppers to go on a vegetable tray for a cookout we were going to, and as I popped a fresh red pepper slice into my mouth and started crunching away, The Girl, two at the time, appeared out of thin air and asked for a bite. I stared at the red pepper for a moment and thought there was no way she would eat it- two year olds didn’t eat fresh red peppers. But, I handed her one anyway, she took a bite, and happily trotted off with a smile on her face. No dressing on it, no salt, nothing, and the child ate it and returned for a second one. Nine years later she’s not a fan of red peppers anymore, but when I put a vegetable tray out for us to munch on, she’ll eat carrots, celery, raw broccoli, cauliflower, cherry tomatoes and cucumbers. This concept worked at introducing my kids to sushi, too. Hubby and I love the stuff, so we would get some for just us and order the kids stir fry or their favorite Asian dish. Curiosity got the best of both of them, and soon they wanted to see why Hubby and I loved sushi so much. We let them try it, and they were hooked.




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July 23 - Interviewed at PubSlush


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3 comments:

BookItBK Walker said...

Thank you for hosting today!

Diane Coto said...

Hi there - Looks like a great book with great advise. Thanks for posting it. :)
D. Coto (fictionzeal.com) - Pit Crew

Morgan Moss said...

Hey! Thank you so much for the guest post opportunity, and for featuring my book! Just wanted to stop by and show some love!!
Thanks!
Morgan aka Tatted Mom