Monday, June 17, 2013

What are women looking for in relationships compared to romance with Mona Darling

by Mona Darling

About The Author:

Mona Darling aka Dead Cow Girl, spent close to twenty years as an A-list professional dominatrix before becoming a D-list mommy blogger. After spending many years traveling the world being told that she is fabulous, she now spends her days being told she doesn’t drive fast enough by her three-year-old son.
Dead Cow Girl was a nickname she received in grade school after a humiliating morning involving a mobile butcher and a school bus. She chose to use that name to reclaim the part of her that spent much of her childhood red-faced with shame, embarrassed for her unique childhood. She also likes it because it is readily available on nearly every social media platform.

She writes, sporadically, about food, sex and toddler-related mayhem at

Genre: Women's Studies

Publisher: Darling Propaganda LLC
Release Date: Feb 2013

Book Description:

Glitter is about the female sexual experience, which contrary to what the media would have you believe, is not all bubble baths and chick flicks.

Women are constantly judged as slutty, or uptight, but the reality is somewhere in between those two, and sometimes, nowhere near either. We have secret shames and private desires and we all feel we are the only one.

We are good church-going girls with a fondness for the paddle, PTA moms who hire escorts, feminists who like to bottom in the bedroom, slutty virgins, bi-curious married laddies and women with a past. We are gay, straight, and undecided.

We are all over the map, and we are amazing.


What are women really looking for in relationships compared to romance?

I think it boils down to romance is all about the adventure and a relationship is about stability.  Any association is a good balance of each, whether it's with your partner, your child, even often in your relationship with a business. It's all about finding that balance. That's why Target is so many women's department store boyfriend. They are reliable in their ability to provide one stop shopping for most of the things we need, but they always offer a little adventure and romance in the end caps.

Way too much adventure and romance according to my husband.

As a professional Dominatrix, my relationships with my clients are all about the adventure. I keep them on their toes and guessing what I might do next. In fact, I often lead them to believe I'll be doing one thing, and delight in changing my mind. But yet, there is still a lot of stability there because they know they can trust me, and that I'll always be there when I say I will, physically or emotionally.

As a wife, stability is key, but without romance and adventure, life would be boring. I think everyone needs their own personal balance of the two, and that point of balance changes from time to time depending on what is going on in life, but it's always there. That's why we all need a fun, sexy date night once in a while, not matter how busy we are in other aspects of our lives.

Children need stability, but their little minds thrive on a bit of controlled adventure. Once again it's all about balance.

In general, I think women want the balance to tip towards stability in their real life, but to tip heavily towards adventure and romance in their reading. Who wants to read about a women in stable relationship going over the monthly bills with the aging love of their life? For the most part, noone.

After 20 years as a professional dominatrix, I never say no one! I've seen some things.

We want to read about a couple who's life is suddenly turned upside down by the arrival of a former flame, or a women who meets two amazing, but completely different men while on vacation in an exotic local. Or, apparently, about being woo'd by sexy vampires and werewolves.

We want to imagine what our lives would be like, and escape into those stories, but generally from the comfort of our couch, and that's perfectly ok. It's like beach sex. It's fun to read about it, but in reality, sand in the vajayjay is no fun.


Burt Morgret said...

Thank you for hosting today :-)

BK Walker said...

I'm really looking forward to reading this book. Thank you :)

Dead Cow Girl said...

Thanks for having me! Let me know if you have any questions! :-D